CopsAlive asked relationship expert Janice Hoffman for some suggestions that police officers could consider before they become involved in a committed relationship or marriage and here is her article with some of our cop specific additions.
Falling in love is a beautiful thing. When we meet that special person, we want get to know them. We ask lots of questions, listen with curiosity and in the process fall deeper in love. If it feels right, we make the decision to share the rest of our lives together.
As a cop the desire to go from being single to married is a big step and should be taken very seriously. Sometimes the person we fall in love with has responsibilities they bring with them so it behooves us to learn as much as possible about this person we love and want to marry. Don’t forget also that inviting someone into the world of law enforcement also carries a lot of baggage and some people may not be ready so don’t withhold information from them thinking that you are helping them. It is always a good idea to fully inform your prospective mate of all that you think is important for them to know about your police career. Continue reading
I first read about John Goddard when I read the original edition of Chicken Soup for the Soul several years ago. At age 15 John set 127 goals he wanted to accomplish during his lifetime. He wanted to accomplish great things and he wanted do lots of amazing stuff during his lifetime. Now many years later he has done most of them and shares his experiences with others. His list included things like exploring all the major rivers of the world and climbing the Matterhorn. He rode elephants and camels, flew in jet fighters and lit a match with a .22 rifle. He wanted to read the complete works of Shakespeare, Plato, Aristotle, Dickens, Thoreau to name a few and he was able to publish an article of his own in National Geographic. He retraced the route of Marco Polo through all of the Middle East, Asia and China, and dove in a submarine. Business World News called him the Real Indiana Jones CLICK HERE to read more. I loved the story so much that I used to read it to my scout troop when I was a Scoutmaster and I would challenge all of them to write their own life list. Do you have a Life List? is it in writing? Continue reading
When you really examine the side-effects of a law enforcement career on the men and women who take the oath and don the badge it’s kind of scary.
First examine the rate 100 to 200 police officers who are killed in the line of duty in the U.S. alone each year. Then if you dig deeper, the statistics show that things like suicide, cancer and other side effects of the police career that kill thousands more cops each year. Continue reading
As cops sometimes we just need to find the humor in things when everything around us is filled with crime and tragedy. Maybe we should check out some of the offerings on YouTube. Here a some of my favorites:
This one was created by Tim and Kris O’Shea of The O’Shea Report. Visit them at http://www.theosheareport.com
It was cloudy, windy and a little chilly as officers and families from around the state of Colorado came together today at the Colorado Law Enforcement Memorial to Officers Killed in the Line of Duty. As the crowd listened to Colorado Governor William Ritter and U.S. Attorney for the District of Colorado Troy Eid praise the actions of this year’s additions to the memorial wall, a lone piper played amazing grace and 219 white doves were released into the sky in tribute to those who have made the ultimate sacrifice for the people of Colorado since it became a state of the union.
The icy wind was a reminder of the harsh reality of the job of peace officer but the children, spouses and family members of those who gave their lives in service was an even more powerful testament to the legacy of sorrow that never leaves a when a peace officer it taken from this earth. Continue reading
That sure describes our policing profession doesn’t it? How many of you really got into law enforcement just for the fun of it? I know, I know, you told the interview panel that all you really wanted to do was to “help people”, and when you became a cop, you did but admit it, you were looking for fun.
The big question might be “Is it still fun?” Did all the fun and excitement that got you into police work linger or has it passed? Are the thrills still there or are you having to create then now? Most importantly, what do you do for fun and relaxation off the job?
With stress probably being the culprit behind most police officer deaths, certainly after retirement, what are you doing to minimize that stress now and how are you relaxing? Also of importance is how healthy is your means of having fun? Continue reading
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What will you do with your life? Will you become one of the best cops in the world or will the job take it’s toll on you? CopsAlive will ask questions of you and of the experts on your behalf. We will consider the true threats to your life and ask you to conduct threat assessments for your life, health and career. Continue reading
CopsAlive works in cooperation with The Law Enforcement Survival Institute to bring useful tools, ideas and strategies to police professionals who want to plan happy, healthy and successful lives and careers.
Law enforcement is the most noble profession in the world. Police officers deserve the very best the world has to offer as thanks for their valuable service to the world. Lots of money, time and resources are spent to help cops protect themselves on the job. Most of it is focused upon “officer survival” strategies that protect officers, deputies, constables, and correctional officers from armed assaults. A true threat assessment of a career in law enforcement reveals that there are many other threats and some of them are more serious. This site is dedicated to finding anything that will help cops successfully navigate their careers and survive in mind, body and spirit to enjoy the rest of their lives in peace no matter when the end of their career arrives.
I had a friend and fellow retired officer commit suicide last year. I didn’t realize how bad the police suicide stats were until I started doing some research. cops have very high suicide rates and lots of other health challenges. I think we would all acknowledge that we as a group have a high rate of alcoholism and divorce and maybe even financial problems. CopsAlive.com is here to work with you and to help you plan to have happy, healthy and successful lives and careers.
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