(This is PART TWO in series of PTSD – What Is it? by Robert Rabe) CLICK HERE to read Part 1
EDITORS NOTE: the following is a guest post from Robert Rabe a Vietnam Veteran who also has 39 Years of Law Enforcement Experience.
Every critical incident has similarities, and everyone is different. And every law enforcement officer’s reaction is individual to them as well. Some officers go through the process of integrating the experience into their psyche without difficulty. Usually this is with the help of others (peer group counseling,debriefings). It is difficult to do it alone. But what can the family possibly do to help the officer? The family can make sure that nothing is missed,especially, if medication is needed. But sometimes medication or even intervention isn’t good enough. Needless to say, if the officer has turned to becoming sullen and melancholy, they are a different person than before the critical incident and onset of PTSD. At this point, the family becomes the secondary victim, and loyalty is tested. The spouse,the children can suffer from secondary PTSD, which is not widely discussed in the mainstream media. Secondary PTSD, while not recognized with diagnostic criteria, is based on the concept, that… those who care for or interact with the officer, who suffers from PTSD, can also become traumatized. Much discussion about this concept has come from the families of veterans returning from military service.
Secondary PTSD results from having knowledge of a critical incident, experienced by another individual and the stress from helping. Secondary PTSD is nearly identical to PTSD (see Part One), except the exposure to the critical incident is indirect.
Today, many law enforcement personnel and their families suffer from PTSD and the battle that rages within. the good news is that PTSD and Secondary PTSD is treatable. The next step is finding help and for families to learn the characteristics of Secondary PTSD. Please read the following:
___ spouse fears what might happen the next time the officer has another fit of rage.
___ fears the officer will someday leave and abandon the family and never come back.
___ fears what might happen to the officer when they are not home.
___ fears “middle of the night surprises.”
___ fears “if just one more thing happens, I’ll lose my mind.”
___ sorry for putting the children through the trauma
___ feeling that it’s my fault, if a were a better spouse, they would be different
___ guilt for spending money on themselves or having a hard time just having fun
___ feels guilty for just about everything
___ sense of helplessness and hopelessness
___ “tired of trying” set up for disappointment
___ low self esteem – poor appearance, dirty home
___ spouse feels that she cannot be truly intimate with the officer and feels reject
by them. They see the inability of the officer to share their emotions
___ feels rejected by friends who no longer come around. Feels rejected by the
community because of lack of support or social interaction
___ spouse, children and family may have few friends or be unable to relate to
friends as they would like to because the officer has alienated them with
___ the few friends or family the spouse does have are tired of hearing about
___ may escape into fantasy world or romantic fiction,TV, thoughts of affairs
___ may lean on children, friends or others too heavily for emotional support
___ constant tension and anxiety because the spouse never knows what they
will do next
___ financial insecurity leads to tremendous anxiety
___ spouse denies having problems, after all, in spite of the circumstances, look
how well I keep it together
___ denial that God or anyone else can help the spouse or the officer. “We have
already tried everything and nothing has worked”.
Want to learn more? Find an excellent article for the spouses of veterans entitled: “Women Who Love Vets, The Greatest Numerical Casualty Statistic of the Vietnam War” by Dr. Oscar Ramirez at this link: http://www.vetsincrossfire.org/spouses_of_veterans.html
ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Bob Rabe, is a Vietnam Veteran (military police), with 38 years of Law enforcement experience. He has been involved in Critical Incident Stress Management for over 20 years. He developed stress Seminars – 14 years. He has volunteered his time to over 50 debriefings Involving law enforcement.
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Jack A. Digliani is the police psychologist for the Loveland Police Department and Larimer County Sheriff’s Office (Colorado). He provides psychological services to department members and their families, and is the clinical supervisor of the agencies’ Peer Support Teams. He has worked with numerous municipal, county, state, and federal law enforcement agencies. He specializes in police and trauma psychology, group interventions, and the development of police, fire, and other emergency service peer support teams.
Dr. Digliani is a licensed psychologist and a former deputy sheriff, police officer, and detective. He served as a law enforcement officer for the Laramie County, Wyoming Sheriff’s Office, the Cheyenne, Wyoming Police Department, and the Fort Collins, Colorado Police Services (FCPS). He was the FCPS Director of Human Services and police psychologist for the last 11 years of his FCPS career. While in this position he provided psychological services for employees and their families, and clinically supervised the FCPS Peer Support Team. He received the FCPS Medal of Merit for his work in police psychology.
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If you feel like you or someone you know is suffering from PTSD and are in need of immediate help please contact your family physician or call the Safe Call Now crisis hotline for first responders at 1-206-459-3020
Safe Call Now is a resource for public safety employees to speak confidentially with officers, former law enforcement officers, public safety professionals and/or mental healthcare providers who are familiar with your line of work.
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